When I first shaved my head, I was mortified if someone stared at me. I did not understand how morally they thought it was alright to just stare. The only ones that never seemed to bother me were the children.
Their childhood is the time to mold and teach them and prepare them for adulthood, I understand that. It is then that you teach them that it is not polite to stare and other generalized manners. Do that. Teach them that it is not polite to stare at the bald girl, but what I do not want you to do is hush your child as they look at me. Let them ask their questions. Let them understand the best way they know how.
I was sitting in Starbucks just now and the cutest little girl came in. I mean she was seriously so adorable, even her little voice. I must clarify that by little girl, she informed me she was five. That is neither here nor there. Anyway, we end up meeting eyes and I smile. She flashes a shy smile back and begins to ask a question. You could tell by the look on her face that she was confused, maybe even bothered by something.
“Are… Are you a boy or girl?”
Her dad was present and he did not try to hush her or even apologize for asking that question. He simply smiled at her and myself and let me answer her question. I am more than happy that it played out like it did.
“I’m a girl. I just was sick for awhile and my fell out, but look it’s coming back. Do you see it?”
She then smiled and continued a conversation with me with ease and even excitement. Her asking me if I was a boy or a girl, was not her being rude. It was simply her not understanding. We are taught if we do not understand something to ask and that is all children are trying to do. Do not let them fear their curiosity. So, let them ask away. Let them grow. Let them understand.